He had a bottle of dish soap that he was using on when I got here. (sort of - dishes obviously hadn't been done since his daughter moved out - ewww!) When that bottle ran out, he pulled a bottle out from under the sink, handed it to me to use, making a point to tell me that it had belonged to his last one. That was over five years before! He had put it away when she left, got new dish soap to use, and saved that one for his next woman to use! As I continued to attempt to clean up the sink area, I found some soap in a glass jar and asked about it. It was the all natural dish soap I had made him two years prior! Geez! Who was he saving that one for?! He had whined back then about being out of dish soap and said he was too broke to get any, so I made him some out of a good soap base I had. All that time he still had the bottle of soap from his last ex. Then he did buy soap and saved mine, too. Grrrr..... Yep. It's gone. I used mine up, myself.
Okay, so I have really strayed off topic, sort of. I don't know about the other women that have been through here, but he has gotten me to spend countless hours in hard labor since I have been here, trimming up his trees and clearing large areas of his property. He would say he would build me this or that if I got it cleared, then .... nothing. He did that with section after section until I had large areas cleared and trimmed all over. Also, he insisted I work around here instead of going to work, said it would benefit us more if I stayed home and worked around the farm. I bandaged blisters, pushed through arthritis pain, migraines, etc., and got it done. The goats got fed well with all the cuttings, but the promises of what "we" would do with the cleared areas never came to light. He obviously just wanted all that cleared for his own use - cheap labor with benefits. How many women has he done this to? With so many of their belongings still here, I have to wonder, does he get women here and push them to marry him so that he is then joint owner of their belongings, but the land remains in his name? We had discussed wedding plans originally, in depth, then he eventually blew it off every time I tried to talk about it. A couple of months before our "official" break up, he pushed me hard to just go to the court house and officially tie the knot. He didn't want any kind of wedding nor anyone there with us. I know now that at that point, he had already planned breaking it off with me. Never mind that I had broken it off a couple of months before. This didn't make sense, unless it was part of his scam.
Looking back over his pattern with past women, plus seeing all the things still here from them, it make one start to wonder. The two wives that he still complains the most about leaving were the two that planned their "escape" in advance and had everything packed up and gone before he got home from work. They got away with all that they wanted. One was on a plane headed back for her country before he knew she was leaving! That really shocked him because of how hard it was to get her and her belongings here.
The thought that he may be pulling a scam had crossed my mind. It would appear that way, but I had dismissed it because, verbally, he was being very generous in all that he said I could take in our "division of property". He even offered to help move the big stuff with is truck and trailer. For the most part, dividing property seemed to be going well (except for the chickens and potatoes). THEN IT HIT! Wednesday morning, while in his extreme rage, he firmly declared that I no longer own anything! He said that my belongings had been here on his property for more than 30 days, so I no longer own ANYTHING! Nothing left to my name. EVERYTHING I moved here (and that is a lot) IS NOW HIS! This includes family heirlooms from several generations. He said it is now up to him as to what he keeps, what he destroys, what he sells, and what, if any, he might decide to "let" me take. SCAM! He hatefully insisted that I couldn't prove that any of my belongings were mine. He repeated that several times to drill it in. "You can't prove any of it is or was yours and you can't do anything about it!" he growled through clenched teeth in the most sarcastic, hate-filled tone he could muster.
Just how much of past wives/live-ins' belongings aren't still here because he sold them off? How many of his past ex's succumbed in fear for their life and left it all to get out safely due to the death threats and physical violence? I want to know! This scammer has to be stopped!
Once again, I apologize for any typos. I will proof read it when I get more Internet time.
Thanks for stopping in and have a beautiful day.
Signed, Betty Sue